OMG, what has the world come to? A sex coach telling you to stop having sex?! I know, I know—but stay with me. This is the advice I give to many couples who come to me when they are navigating major issues in their sex lives. When I say "major," I mean they feel they’ve "tried everything" (they often haven’t), and at least one of them is so damn frustrated that they actually dread the next time sex is initiated. See the problem? The Pressure to Perform I have lost count of th

Once upon a time, I was straddling a man, as you do. We were both naked, oiled-up, and breathless. I was working as a sexual masseur—a world where body-to-body contact, kink, and exploration are part of the daily grind. But in the middle of that heat, I caught a glimpse of something else in his eyes: profound sadness. He stared at me, his unspoken question hanging in the air. "What is it?" I asked. "I wish I could do that," he whispered. "Do what?" I asked, briefly wondering