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Once upon a time, I was straddling a man, as you do. We were both naked, oiled-up, and breathless. I was working as a sexual masseur—a world where body-to-body contact, kink, and exploration are part of the daily grind. But in the middle of that heat, I caught a glimpse of something else in his eyes: profound sadness. He stared at me, his unspoken question hanging in the air. "What is it?" I asked. "I wish I could do that," he whispered. "Do what?" I asked, briefly wondering

Why Your Identity Doesn't Have to Be Stagnant I am writing this to clear something up. I am not necessarily doing it to clear it up for you; I am clearing it up for me. Out loud. In public. In full view. It’s how I do things. When you look at my process in this way, it might—just might—subliminally give you "permission" to be you. That’s what it’s all about. Being the real, true, authentic, beautiful you. Let’s Talk About Sex I’m gay. I am not gay. I am more bisexual. Often,

Once upon a time, I would feel chaotic, lost, all over the place. Much of this confusion would be triggered and exacerbated by friends' (or foes') judgment and attitude towards my, apparent, multiple personalities. I remember conducting a workshop on healing and "being aware of energy flow" in Manchester, around 2004. A close friend of mine was in the audience; he glared at me with an undisguised look of shock. As the workshop progressed, he began to relax and started having

The Truth About Semen Retention: Why You Should Probably Just Have a Wank I recently watched a YouTube video by a guy "teaching" men how to "retain semen" using some supposed Yogic practice to "redirect the energy through your chakras and up out of the head"—blah, blah, blah. He was teaching the wrong way to do it, which is dangerous. Even worse, he had no idea that for most men, ejaculation is a vital part of physical and psychological health. He presented it in such an expe