Stop Having Sex. Immediately. If Not Sooner.

OMG, what has the world come to? A sex coach telling you to stop having sex?!

I know, I know—but stay with me. This is the advice I give to many couples who come to me when they are navigating major issues in their sex lives. When I say "major," I mean they feel they’ve "tried everything" (they often haven’t), and at least one of them is so damn frustrated that they actually dread the next time sex is initiated.

See the problem?

The Pressure to Perform

I have lost count of the number of times I’ve said, "Okay, my first piece of advice is simple: please stop having sex for two weeks." The reaction is usually universal: couples shriek, "Thank God!" Their shoulders drop with relief. In many mixed-sex couples, the man often feels the most profound sense of release.

Usually, the core problem isn’t specifically the type of sex they are having—it’s the mounting pressure to perform and "make it better." This pressure triggers disagreements, feelings of inadequacy, and resentment. When they try to have sex, all that "shit" just gets in the way.

Taking the Pressure Off

The simple, short-term solution is to remove the pressure entirely. It’s easier than you think. For now, take a break from sex and do something else.

Focusing on a problem often just makes it bigger. It stands to reason that this sex coach is going to suggest a distraction. For now, plan a non-sexual date night, an outdoor activity, or a shared movie night—whatever works for you.

Just make sure it is something a little different, non-sexual, and either fun or peaceful.

Just Breathe

That's it.

Did you say "What do you mean, that's it?!"

Yep. For now, it is.

Relax… I’ll be back.

Need help in the meantime? You know where to find me.

The London Sex Coach Xxx (all articles written by me).